Meeting
Robert Dilts ; The modeling with Olivier Corchia to Robert
Dilts Quality of being in relation.
Publication : 2006
DVD english version & french version.
5 DVD All Regions.
Weight : 235 g
SIze : 13 x 19 cm
Ending : Box
Reference : 364 DVD-1
Olivier Corchia : « Modeling is to me a most personal
joy, as is sharing these modeling discoveries. On March
14, 2005, I had the good fortune to model a most fascinating
subject : Robert DILTS; on a truly essential point : his
quality of being in relation. It is my belief that on that
day, NLP entered a new definition, that of focusing on
modeling integrity and love. The result is so defining,
that I feel compelled to share it with the entire NLP community-
and of course with anyone interested beyond that community.
This life experience is an invitation to all of us to promote
modeling. Continuing modeling Robert DILTS, of course,
for it was only a first step, and it brings as well as
anchors wonderful qualities of being. To all of you, wherever
you might be in the world, you are surrounded by beautiful
people who have developped remarkable qualities of being,
unusual know-howor magnificent skills. It is time for you
to take the time, to focus on these people, not only on
their capabilities, to be able to get deeply inspired by
them and share that inspiration. Also, throughout the world,
NLP schools can lead the way to the modeling of quality
of being, thus truly entering 3rd Generation NLP.
5 DVDs contain : whole modelisation day including 3 modelisation
phases, keypoints synthesis, models developpements possibilities,
public questions and reactions.
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NLP in evolution : Robert DILTS’ quality of
being in relation.
I have been practicing NLP for 10 years now, with
passion, training in organizations, coaching 
and/or
teaching at all levels of NLP within renowned NLP institutions.
I take special personal delight in modeling and applying
modeling to others. On March 14th 2005, I was given the
pleasure of experiencing with a most captivating “model”:
Robert Dilts; and a fundamental issue: his quality of being
in relation .
The result is so moving that I really believe it essential
to share with the whole NLP Community and, of course, with
anyone who desires so beyond that community.
How This Modeling Came About :
My interest for NLP is deeply rooted in the fact that –
besides being efficient – it is generative and evolutionary.
NLP allows us to create and find new possibilities, through
its open-mindedness, especially by modeling.
NLP already belongs to a certain tradition, which stems
from multiple sources. Theoretical sources (Gregory BATESON,
Noam CHOMSKY, Paul WATZLAWICK…) and empirical sources
including the modeling of Virginia SATIR, Fritz PERLS and
Milton ERICKSON by Richard Bandler and John Grinder, the
original co-creators of NLP.
NLP also fits into modernity - there have been many new
developments in NLP- particularly with the in-depth work
of Robert Dilts on NLP tools (SOAR and SCORE models, Neuro-Logical
Levels, Beliefs Systems, Systemic NLP…), on NLP applications
(health, leadership, therapy, learning…) and in terms
of structure and popularization of NLP ( Modeling Geniuses,
NLP Encyclopedia…).
It is within the framework of these new developments in
NLP that our day took place, modeling Robert Dilts on his
quality of being in relation.
In Montreal, before an audience of more than 100 people
gathered there, thanks to the Centre Québécois
de PNL and its director, Joanne Riou, we were able to take
the time not to listen to Robert Dilts on a given topic,
not to apply NLP exercises, but rather to respectfully look
upon the “container”, the spirit and the soul
of this man who has been contributing to NLP for 30 years
now.
In fact, what I wanted from this day was to focus on the
quality of being, more so than on Robert’s efficient
strategies and behaviors. For two fundamental reasons:
- firstly, if I focus on the differences that make a difference
in a successful helping relationship, I observe that efficiency
and quality of being in relation are inseparable. NLP has
mainly modeled efficient strategies and behaviors; therefore,
it would have been of less value to decide on modeling tools
or strategies again, which presented the actual risk of
missing the essence of competency.
- then, we all rub elbows with highly efficient environments
and people, people of excellence, our society itself produces
efficiency and excellence. What do we need today? Only a
little more excellence? NLP can continue to bring more value,
in an authentic and unique way, by allowing us to open to
other insights. What inspiration guides Robert through his
interventions, for instance, seemed to be just as fascinating
as which direction his eyes take.
How did we proceed?
Our modeling consisted of exploring Robert’s quality
of being through three examples.
Our first example was a significant case that Robert chose.
He described what he did to establish relationship in a
situation in which getting rapport was not easy. From the
very beginning, Robert took us into a deeper dimension –
and I followed along – then inviting him, with questions,
to explore even further his own awareness about his quality
of being.
For our second example, we watched a videotaped intervention
of Robert coaching someone during the 3-day seminar entitled
“Systemic Tools for a World in Transformation”
that he had given prior to the Modeling Day. At this point,
with Robert, we co-modeled the intervention’s key
points, stopping the tape and reflecting upon how and why
Robert responded or acted the way he did.
Finally, our third example was simply the actual interaction
between Robert and myself. Robert coached me to be in “his
shoes” while I interacted with another person. I explored
Robert’s quality of being by starting to integrate
the patterns we had discovered and exploring further, in
a wider way, questions that were necessary for me to understand
this quality of being.
Following this, we asked the participants to try out the
key patterns that had come from our exploration. To be able
to observe a model is itself very enriching, and to touch
the model’s structure deeply heightens the experience.
Therefore, after formally defining Robert’s process
with the neuro-logical levels, we asked participants to
work on specifically integrating this modeling “into
the muscle” by doing several exercises.
Such integration is essential even if it is sometimes underestimated
in modeling/ transmission processes. It is necessary, for
it allows us to start to practice the modeled “subject”
in a different way. It also allows the person to adapt it
to his/her own needs, to integrate what will make sense
to him/her, through him/her. The purpose of this modeling
is to contribute to the growth of a culture (that of the
quality of being in relation) rather than to honor a cult
(the cult of Robert Dilts).
So, what were the results??
This meeting with Robert proved to be a magical moment
which has opened – I am deeply convinced of it –
true pathways for those who wish to develop a deeper quality
of being within their coaching or their life. These ways
are numerous and rich, and I personally wish to offer them
to you as an extension to the NLP presuppositions.
I am aware how difficult this could prove, for I know so
well how attached NLP followers are to these presuppositions!
I wish that all of the NLP “Custodians of the Temple”
open their vision through their conscience and heart, in
examining the following new presuppositions.
I remember how spaces opened to me when I discovered and
applied the Basic Principles of NLP, and I imagine that
it could be so with the following.
What follows could, in fact, constitute some basic research
on Third Generation NLP Presuppositions (1).
A new presupposition which complements “The Map is
Not the Territory”
« Anyone can reach the territory
»
Although this sentence might resemble an « earthquake
», it could prove fundamentally useful in transforming
a person’s issues (as it was for some of the participants
in the modeling program, working on Truth).
This presupposition is possible through what I see as a
complementary and opposite movement of the process described
by NLP’s creators. Rather than selecting data, this
movement consists of connecting to the field (mentioned
by Gregory Bateson, for instance (2)), a kind of unfocusing
of all 5 senses (VAKOG in NLP).
Instead of distortion, one has to take the information as
is, letting it go directly into our place of truth, our
center of resources, somewhere slightly above the solar
plexus.
Instead of data generalizations, this data is processed
in the here and now, that is in this location with this
presence.
This process, which exists in relation to others, most certainly
requires – even for experienced communicators –
a « re-learning », and regular practice to allow
it to become unconscious.
A new presupposition which could complement « People
have a positive intention » :
« A person’s identity
is beautiful and paradoxical »
To see, to accept and to sponsor this identity is so much
more powerful than to recognize its positive intention.
It is in the present paradox, deep inside the identity of
the person that we can recognize the wholeness of this person.
If this presupposition is self-evident to you, then it is
important to promote it for its usefulness, just as with
the positive intention.
Two more presuppositions can complement a Third Generation
NLP approach.
« To be in a deep relationship
with myself and with the person allows me to see and promote
the beauty within that person »
Deep synchronization does not only take place at the behavioral
level (verbal and non-verbal), but is also located in a
relationship at a somatic/emotional/energetic level, allowing
a subtle resonance. This also requires one to try to see
the person unconditionally where he/she is, and to recognize
that space in him/her with love.
« Body and Mind are linked
to a larger Field »
(There already is a presupposition stating that «
body and mind are aspects of a same cybernetic system »,
and therefore influence each other)
By integrating this new presupposition, we can access the
field as a therapeutic tool, as a resource. It is interesting
to take note of participants’ testimonies following
that day, regarding its “energizing” power for
the coach, when coaching with the field dimension.
A few notes on my own experience and
realizations through this modeling…
Robert Dilts’ experience provided us with numerous
pearls of teaching. Here are but a few: (I can not recopy
everything and at this point in time, a DVD that will allow
you to access this day and its teachings is still in production.
I believe that some of our discoveries could be formally
presented as Basic Principles for Communicating with Integrity
and Sponsorship, in an NLP intervention, for instance :
We could also point out other ways to develop new skills
for certified Master Practitioners or “helping relationships”
students.
They highlight the ability to self-calibrate (like a tangible
definition of integrity), the ability to connect to the
other person when –that person does not want to be
seen, the possibility to get to the voice’s essence,
to talk to this voice at different places of the person
(head, center) and even the ability to calibrate life.
All these things are so essential – while rather
basic in their explanation – and were made possible
by tangible insights which occurred from what modeling Robert
Dilts’ quality of being has revealed.
The one startling question that emerges following this
modeling is : “Finally, what do we pay attention to
in order to improve our ability to live and to accompany
others?”
In conclusion…
Despite my knowing Robert and his teachings, and despite
my preparing for this modeling exercise, I approached it
with genuine curiosity in order to discover Robert’s
deeper talents. I discovered a much more emotional NLP than
the one I learned. (Imagine that emotion was even a key
element in Robert’s memory strategies and guiding
exercises?)
I discovered, as a watermark, an NLP within a spiritual
dimension – with no proselytizing from its author
– but directly embodied in the quality of his accompaniment.
I discovered words of Truth and of Beauty, which resonated
as a more than positive intention within the relationship…
That NLP, I loved, for it took me away from suspicions
and unfounded accusations of power and manipulation by its
critics. By modeling Robert’s quality of being in
relation, surely we have found what already existed within
Virginia Satir, Gregory Bateson or Milton Erickson…
We also reached beyond the work of NLP’s creators,
Richard Bandler and John Grinder : NLP now extends further
than the modeling of excellence.
I believe that on March 14th, 2005, NLP entered a new definition
– the attention to modeling integrity and love.
This true experience is an invitation for us all to promote
modeling. To carry on Robert Dilts’modeling, of course,
because it is just starting and bringing and anchoring very
beautiful qualities of being.
To you all, wherever you are in the world, around you are
persons who have developed a beautiful quality of being,
a rare experience, a wonderful talent. It is time to take
the time to put your attention on them—and not only
on their capacities, to be able to profoundly be inspired
and to share this with others.
Also all around the world, NLP Institutes can be true leaders
in opening this path of modeling the quality of being and
so concretely enter into the Third Generation NLP.
Olivier Corchia
Certified NLP Trainer
Coach & Business Consultant
(1) Third Generation NLP has been developing since the early
’90s. Its applications are generative, systemic and
focus on the higher levels of learning, interaction and
development, including identity, vision and mission. Third
Generation NLP emphasizes the system’s global changes
and can be applied to organizational and cultural development,
from individuals to groups. Its techniques are “field-based,”
encompassing principles of self-organization, archetypes
and what is called the “fourth position,” a
brand new systemic perspective.
(2) .—Gregory Bateson (Steps to an Ecology of Mind,
1972) “The individual mind is immanent but not only
in the body. It is immanent in pathways and messages outside
the body; and there is a larger Mind of which the individual
mind is only a sub-system. This larger Mind is comparable
to God and is perhaps what people mean by “God”,
but it is still immanent in the total interconnected social
system and planetary ecology.”
To go further :
Robert DILTS : www.nlpu.com
Olivier Corchia : www.oliviercorchia.com
Centre Québécois de PNL : www.centrepnl.com
